Recounting her coming-of-age as a transgender Filipino-American person with albinism, Talusan sails past the conventions of trans and immigrant memoirs. Rather than flaying her identities one by one, she examines the links between them to illustrate that it is here, in the messy overlap, that a person is made. —Rawiya Kameir, The New York Times

“By painting her life in such exquisite detail, Talusan breathes new life into the well-worn body of the transgender life story, showing the reader deep wells of complexity where, in a less truthful or less talented writer’s hands, oversimplification and cliché might reign.” —Kai Cheng Thom, The Boston Globe

“This nuance, this careful attention to looking and attempting to understand this journey not just from her own perspective, but also from those affected by it, gives a welcome maturity, depth and resonance to Talusan's memoir.” —National Public Radio

“Even for avid readers of memoirs, Talusan’s (journalist and founding executive editor of them., Condé Nast’s LGBTQ digital platform) debut will stand out from the crowd, not only because of the author’s unique experiences, but also because she presents them with a rare, frank vulnerability. “ —Sarah Schroeder, Library Journal

“At the end of this singular and beautiful memoir, her pain is still present, and there is some work left undone. She shows us that true growth does not come without grief and even necessary changes come at a cost.”—Ashley Riggleson, The Freelance-Star

“The author examines queer otherness with relentless honesty, and she investigates how accidental whiteness did not automatically lead to the fairest outcomes, either for herself or others. A captivatingly eloquent memoir.” —Kirkus Reviews

“Talusan interrogates the complex intersection of who she feels herself to be and how others perceive her. Through this fearless self-awareness, Talusan demonstrates her intellect, creativity, sexuality and, most of all, a true dedication to expressing her inner self. “—Kelly Blewett, BookPage

“The account of her earlier life as a man and her decision to become a woman—including reassignment surgery—is psychologically acute, enlightening, and occasionally heartbreaking…”—Michael Cart, Booklist

“This elegant memoir examining whiteness, womanhood, and the shaping of identity will resonate with readers of any community, LGBTQ or not.” —Publishers Weekly